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fuckk , i told a friend that i was bi .. so now whenever we change in the locker room she takes off her clothes all fast and shit .. jeez ; chill the fuck out , i’m no rapist>.<

i actually hate this, people have said “oh, she’s bi she’s gonna turn you bi if you hang out with her”

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My Son Is Gay

Or he’s not. I don’t care. He is still my son. And he is 5. And I am his mother. And if you have a problem with anything mentioned above, I don’t want to know you.

I have gone back and forth on whether I wanted to post something more in-depth about my sweet boy and his choice of Halloween costume. Or more specifically, the reactions to it. I figure if I’m still irked by it a few days later, I may as well go ahead and post my thoughts.

Here are the facts that lead up to my rant:

1. My son is 5 and goes to a church preschool.
2. He has loved Scooby Doo since developing the ability and attention span to sit still long enough to watch it.
3. Halloween is a holiday and its main focus is wearing a costume.
4. My son’s school had the kids dress up, do a little parade, and then change out of costumes for the rest of the party.
5. Boo’s best friend is a little girl
6. Boo has an older sister
7. Boo spends most of his time with me.
8. I am a woman.
9. I am Boo’s mother, not you.

So a few weeks before Halloween, Boo decides he wants to be Daphne from Scooby Doo, along with his best friend E. He had dressed as Scooby a couple of years ago.  I was hesitant to make the purchase, not because it was a cross gendered situation, but because 5 year olds have a tendency to change their minds. After requesting a couple of more times, I said sure and placed the order. He flipped out when it arrived. It was perfect.

Then as we got closer to the actual day, he stared to hem and haw about it. After some discussion it comes out that he is afraid people will laugh at him. I pointed out that some people will because it is a cute and clever costume. He insists their laughter would be of the ‘making fun’ kind. I blow it off. Seriously, who would make fun of a child in costume?

And then the big day arrives. We get dressed up. We drop Squirt at his preschool and head over to his. Boo doesn’t want to get out of the car. He’s afraid of what people will say and do to him. I convince him to go inside. He halts at the door. He’s visibly nervous. I chalk it up to him being a bit of a worrier in general. Seriously, WHO WOULD MAKE FUN OF A CHILD IN A  COSTUME ON HALLOWEEN? So he walks in. And there were several friends of mine that knew what he was wearing that smiled and waved and gave him high-fives. We walk down the hall to where his classroom is.

And that’s where things went wrong. Two mothers went wide-eyed and made faces as if they smelled decomp. And I realize that my son is seeing the same thing I am. So I say, “Doesn’t he look great?” And Mom A says in disgust, “Did he ask to be that?!” I say that he sure did as Halloween is the time of year that you can be whatever it is that you want to be. They continue with their nosy, probing questions as to how that was an option and didn’t I try to talk him out of it. Mom B mostly just stood there in shock  and dismay.

And then Mom C approaches. She had been in the main room, saw us walk in, and followed us down the hall to let me know her thoughts. And they were that I should never have ‘allowed’ this and thank God it wasn’t next year when he was in Kindergarten since I would have had to put my foot down and ‘forbidden’ it. To which I calmly replied that I would do no such thing and couldn’t imagine what she was talking about. She continued on and on about how mean children could be and how he would be ridiculed.

My response to that: The only people that seem to have a problem with it is their mothers.

Another mom pointed out that high schools often have Spirit Days where girls dress like boys and vice versa. I mentioned Powderpuff Games where football players dress like cheerleaders and vice versa. Or every frat boy ever in college (Mom A said that her husband was a frat boy and NEVER dressed like a woman.)

But here’s the point, it is none of your damn business.

If you think that me allowing my son to be a female character for Halloween is somehow going to ‘make’ him gay then you are an idiot. Firstly, what a ridiculous concept. Secondly, if my son is gay, OK. I will love him no less. Thirdly, I am not worried that your son will grow up to be an actual ninja so back off.

If my daughter had dressed as Batman, no one would have thought twice about it. No one.

But it also was heartbreaking to me that my sweet, kind-hearted five year old was right to be worried. He knew that there were people like A, B, and C. And he, at 5, was concerned about how they would perceive him and what would happen to him.

Just as it was heartbreaking to those parents that have lost their children recently due to bullying. IT IS NOT OK TO BULLY. Even if you wrap it up in a bow and call it ‘concern.’  Those women were trying to bully me. And my son. MY son.

It is obvious that I neither abuse nor neglect my children. They are not perfect, but they are learning how to navigate this big, and sometimes cruel, world. I hate that my son had to learn this lesson while standing in front of allegedly Christian women. I hate that those women thought those thoughts, and worse felt comfortable saying them out loud. I hate that ‘pink’ is still called a girl color and that my baby has to be so brave if he wants to be Daphne for Halloween.

And all I hope for my kids, and yours, and those of Moms ABC, are that they are happy. If a set of purple sparkly tights and a velvety dress is what makes my baby happy one night, then so be it. If he wants to carry a purse, or marry a man, or paint fingernails with his best girlfriend, then ok. My job as his mother is not to stifle that man that he will be, but to help him along his way. Mine is not to dictate what is ‘normal’ and what is not, but to help him become a good person.

I hope I am doing that.

And my little man worked that costume like no other. He rocked that wig, and I wouldn’t want it any other way.

seriously how could you not reblog.

So cute.

I don’t get why people discriminate for what people are, It’s natural.

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morningofhalfsmiles asked: Not a problem :)
That's pretty cool, how far along are you from being done with training? I've never taken anything medical related, so I might sound a bit stupid sometimes when I ask you questions about your work. My knowledge is limited to a few episodes of grey's anatomy and house. Embarrassingly so :$
Oh that procrastination went exceedingly well, thank you for asking :) One of the habits I hope to get rid of soon.
Plans for the weekend? Or will it be work for you?

^_^ My program is two years long, I’m into the Fall of my second year. I’ll graduate in May.

Trust me, nothing sounds stupid. I get asked about it all the time.  Most people don’t even realize there are RT’s, they usually think we’re just another nurse or dietary. Lol. That’s okay, that’s probably true for most people.

Haha. Yeah… I have a habit of putting things off as well, and then I usually pull an all nighter to finish whatever it is I put off.

I do actually. I worked yesterday and I’m pulling another 10 hour shift today, but tonight my cousin theonlynight  is having her going away party tonight, so I’ll be there. 

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Tomorow is To Write Love on Her Arms Day. Write LOVE on your arms to spread awareness and support those in recovery for self-injury or mental illness.

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Don’t spaz! This is not real! The “blood” is a product of colored corn syrup and photoshop.  And don’t think I’m making fun. I’ve been in this place, I know it all too well,  and thus take it VERY seriously.

Quote is from Paramore’s “The Only Exception”

“Your love is pulling like a rubberband.”

-Christina Aguilera   ”Elastic Love”

morningofhalfsmiles asked: That's alright. sorry I took so long to reply, I'm multitasking :p
That sounds intense. Erm, what exactly are "clinicals" though?
I'm in a general social sciences degree atm, but I plan to put in a psych major in there in a couple of months.
How's your day coming along!? :)

Sorry! The last few days have been crazy.

Clinicals are on site training, like in hospitals. I spent the last few weeks at UPMC Mercy, but now I’m at a local site.

Psych? That’s awesome! I had to take a general psych class, but that’s about as far as my psych knowledge goes.

That day went well until I was called into work as soon as I got home.

How did the procrastinating go?